….. the nineties. I know that a lot of people are going to choose the eighties so I’m bucking that trend. The eighties were a huge decade in just about every way but, in my own life, the nineties were better.
I turned twenty in 1990. Throughout my childhood and teens, I was the one who was shy, a little pudgy, suffered low self-esteem and was often the target of teasing and bullying. It was only at the end of my teens that I found myself in a really good group of friends and my confidence grew. In 1990, I started seeing the man who would become my husband (and later my ex-husband), moved out of my parent’s house and my life really got started.
Those ten years were undoubtedly the best time of our relationship. It was a time of friends, family and of personal growth. I was among people who accepted me and loved me. I found my voice. After growing up in a house where my opinions were mostly brushed aside and my feelings belittled, I felt empowered for the first time in my life.
It was also during this decade that I became a mother two times. Actually, The Girl was born in 2000 so technically she doesn’t count in that decade but this is my story so I get to make up the rules on what decade to count her in. At this point, we were married, had a house, a dog and two cats. Kids seemed the next logical step in my evolution. They were and still are the best thing I’ve ever done.
|My "baby" before my babies|
This is also the decade when my grandmother, father and mother-in-law passed away. I had complicated relationships with all three of these people but they all had their own part in shaping me and teaching me important lessons.
It was in the nineties that I started the job that I am still at twenty years later. This job has had its ups and downs and will never be a dream job but it has been a steady source of income to support me and my kids and I will forever be grateful to my boss for taking a chance on an inexperienced twenty-four year old. I think that I have managed to prove myself capable.
Overall, that was a good ten years and there isn’t a lot that I would change if I could go back. That’s not to say that I made no mistakes but the things that I went through in the nineties, good and bad, had a huge part in shaping the person that I am today and I kind of like that person