Friday, July 10, 2015

Lost without it


 I recently had another lesson in just how much we have all come to depend on our cell phones.  I don’t know about you but my phone seems to have become an extension to my arm – it’s always there.  My teenagers are just as bad.  Every conversation with them these days seems to happen by text.

A couple of weeks ago, I was at a local shopping centre with my uncle and he was waiting at a cash register to pay for a purchase.  I needed to go to the washroom so he said to go ahead and he’d catch up to me.

Sounds simple, right?  Well, when I came out of the washroom, he was nowhere to be seen.  Since he’s from out of town and didn’t know the shopping centre well, he ended up wandering in the wrong direction.

No problem; I just whipped out my trusty phone and then……. froze.  You see, he’s a little bit out of the loop technologically and doesn’t carry a phone in his pocket.

I must have looked like a deer in the headlights standing there with a phone in my hand with no clue what to do.  When was the last time that I went anywhere with someone who doesn’t have a phone in their pocket?  He had dropped me off at the door earlier and then parked the car so I didn’t even know where the car was to go meet him.

I haven’t had a problem like this in YEARS!  Back in the day, when you were temporarily separating from someone in a public place, you would synchronize your watches and decide that you would meet in a certain place at a certain time and you made sure that you were there because there was no way to let the person know where you were.  Nowadays you both go do your thing and then call each other on the trusty cell phone to decide where to meet.  I don’t even own a watch anymore!

This story did have a happy ending.  The mall wasn’t a big one and I managed to find my uncle without calling in a search party. 

It wasn’t so long ago that the thought of having a phone in your pocket so that you could be constantly in touch with people was unheard of but now we take it for granted so much that someone without a phone in their pocket is the odd one.

Don’t worry Uncle K, you may be the odd one but we love you anyway.


Thursday, July 2, 2015

A post in fifteen lines for Mama Kat's Workshop

My mother died just over a week ago.

I won't say that we had a "complicated" relationship because, honestly, there really wasn't much of a relationship.

Still...... the way she lived the last few years was sad.

The way she died - alone - was sad.

I have plenty to be bitter about and could be very negative.

I chose instead to let go and walk away; it saved my sanity (mostly anyway).

Still...... I am now dealing with the aftermath of a life not well-lived.

There are debts and dirt to deal with.

No assets except for her cat which is living under my daughter's bed at the moment.

I didn't even know the cat's name for sure until we found the vet records.

How damned sad is that?

The outpouring of sympathy and condolences from friends and acquaintances has been so nice

Most of the well-wishers don't realize the emotional distance between us and I, mostly, keep it to myself

It's easier to just say "Thank you"

So........  thank you.


Thursday, June 11, 2015

Book Review: Fat Girl Walking


Last weekend I read Fat Girl Walking by Brittany Gibbons.  I’ve been following Brittany through her  blog, Twitter and Instagram for a while now and have admired her boldness, confidence and her beauty.  I used to think “wow, she must have had quite some upbringing to have such confidence and self-esteem” because, really, that’s something that most women have trouble with regardless of their dress size. 

Well, guess what; she has those issues too.  Who’d of thunk it?!  You’d never know it, looking at her bikini pics on Instagram, but she has all of the same self-esteem and insecurity issues that I do.  She has had the same issues with clothing, taunting, shaming; been treated poorly by guys.  Sadly, the things that she went through with teenaged boys are the same things that I’ve experienced with grown men.  Do they ever grow up?

This lady is just like me, you and every other woman who has ever looked at her body and said “Ugh!” yet, she has found way to live with this and still shine.  If she wasn’t such a bad lesbian (you gotta read the book), I’d be in love with her.  

The difference between Brittany and me is that she has found a way to look past her own insecurities and see herself in a positive light.  That’s what this book is about; her journey to seeing herself in a good way and giving herself permission to shine.  I try but tend to fall short, more often than not.  She is definitely an inspiration.

Anyone who has struggled with their weight throughout their life will find themselves nodding at so much of what she says and, hopefully, will walk away with a new perspective. We owe it to our daughters to obliterate the current harsh language that we use to describe ourselves and, perhaps, open the discussion wherever we go about what real beauty is.

Mama’s Losin’ It


Thursday, June 4, 2015

What makes me happy?

One of the Writers’ Workshop prompts this week is another list – list ten things that make you happy.  Let’s see if I can do a better job of completing my list this week since I kind of fizzled out on last week’s list.

-Being the loving mother that I am, I must list my pride in The Boy first.  I sat in a gymnasium full of other proud parents the other night watching our offspring march up to the stage to receive their high school graduation certificates.  The Boy is an honour student who received special commendation in Math, French and English.  I’d say that’s a reason to smile!

-I am just as proud of The Girl for how well she is doing school as well and am amazed each and every day by what a wonderful young lady she is turning into.

-I’m loving the cool weather that we’ve been having.  Some people are griping about the low temps but I figure that the heat and humidity of our Montreal summer will be hitting soon enough so I’m definitely not complaining.

-It turns out that some expenses that I thought were coming my way are not actually coming so my financial future (at least in the next couple of months) is looking brighter.

-I got a great deal on a new television a couple of months ago and, with the addition of Apple TV to it, I’ve really been enjoying it.  It’s a small thing but it makes me happy.

-I have a great “to-read” pile of books on my shelf just waiting for me to enjoy.  Enough said. 

-I have pretty flowers on my balcony that haven’t died yet.  Even three out of four herb plants are still alive.  It seems, though, that Mother Nature doesn’t like thyme.

-I managed to buy the new Samsung Galaxy S6 with some of my tax refund money this spring and it makes me happier than any material thing should.  My bills are paid and the necessary things have been taken care of so no guilt can be attached to this luxury; just joy

-Even though I try to use my barbeque for most of the year, the true season for it is upon us and I love throwing dinner on the grill.  It’s staying light out later and I’m not freezing my butt off – that’s a win!

-The kids’ last day of regular classes is this Friday.  After that, they only have a few final exams to do and that is the end of school for the year.  This means that won’t be hauling their butts out of bed in the mornings or stressing over having things to pack for their lunches.  I’ll be able to just get myself ready for work in the mornings and leave them to fend for themselves.  Can you hear my sigh of happiness?

What’s making you happy these days?

Mama’s Losin’ It