Thursday, April 24, 2014

Busy Week

I’m going to combine two of Mama Kat’s writing prompts this week since they pretty much meld together well.   The best thing that I’ve bought this month just happened to coincide with Easter weekend so is part of my Easter recap. 

Ive been a bit absent from the bloggy world this past week (or so) because I’ve been so darned busy spending money as well as building furniture and catching up from my vacation week.  I took a week off to recharge my failing internal batteries and came back to a short week last week so I was really pretty pooped at the end of each day.  However, this did not stop me from carrying out my plans for the tax refunds I received in the mail last week.  Aren’t tax refunds a glorious thing?!! 

Since they are outside of my normal paycheque and budget, I tend to consider my tax refund cheques to be “found” money and use them to get the things that we need/want that don’t fit into the normal budget.  That said, I spent an absolutely obscene amount of money last week…. 

We started with a trip to Costco where I stocked up my freezer, not to mention the rest of my kitchen, and bought The Boy a new bike.  His old one was totally finished and, considering his busy social life, he really needed a new one.  He’ll now be free to boogy off to his friends’ places free of the constraint of bus schedules. 

On Friday, since we all had the day off for the holiday, we hit the mall for some clothes shopping.  This is pretty much the only time of year when I actually buy clothes for myself.  There is usually something else that we need that comes first.  The kids were also sorely in need of new clothes.  They grow so darned fast!  That was definitely an expensive day but my wardrobe got a much needed boost so it was well worth it. 

On Saturday came the trip to Ikea.  The kids’ room hasn’t been changed since we moved into the apartment over nine years ago and something really had to be done.  We separated the bunk beds into two separate beds, threw out a whole bunch of junk and trashed the wall unit/dresser whose drawers were broken and whose shelves wouldn’t stay up anymore; hence the trip to Ikea.  We bought them each a new bureau as well as a tv stand for the old tv we have in there for the xBox.  The rest of that day and part of the next one were spent moving old furniture around and building new furniture.  There is something about building furniture that makes a non-handy person feel pretty powerful.  I even walked away with a small blood-blister on my finger as a souvenir of my new handiness! 

Please ignore the dust on the TV :)

As for Easter…… it’s never been a big holiday in our household.  When the kids were younger, I hid chocolate for them and gave them baskets with fun toys but they are teens now and would probably prefer cash.  I’ve picked up a few treats over the past couple of weeks so we’ve all had our share of chocolate and they got to celebrate the long weekend with a “new” bedroom.  I was so tired by Sunday night that I couldn’t have cooked a feast if my life had depended on it so we ordered in pizza. 

The tax refund money?  Poof, all gone! 


Mama’s Losin’ It

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Wordless Wednesday 4/16


Yes, the best way to live!  


Friday, April 11, 2014

Finish the Sentence Friday - #5

If I could go back in time...….

….. I would tell my younger self to work harder at overcoming her innate shyness and forge more close friendships.

When I was younger, I had little self-confidence and was painfully shy with people that I didn't know.  I still am, to a certain extent, but have been trying to work on that.  During the years that I was married to Stinky, there were always people around and we had a pretty decent social circle but the problem is that they were people that he drew to us.  He is an extrovert extraordinaire!  He draws people in so I never had to work at having people around me.  Unfortunately this meant that, when we separated, a lot of those "friends" stayed with him and I was left with a very small social circle.  Blink as they go by and you might miss them.

It's funny, there were always people around our house or some social thing to go to and I would actually get annoyed but, now, sometimes I miss it.  I guess it's all about perspective.

I do have friends though.  It's not like I'm a totally isolated hermit with noone but her cat.  We're talking about quality over quantity in my case.  Not a bad thing, when you think about it.  I've stumbled around a bit over the years, learning how to cultivate and keep friendships.  It's not as easy as you would think watching my ex work his magic but I'm getting there.  I only wish that I had worked harder at that skill when I was younger.  Teaching this old dog new tricks is tough.

No flowers yet but we're getting there!
Now that we are all coming out of hibernation from the long winter months, I plan to spend some time enjoying those friendships.  Perhaps a beer on a terrasse downtown after work, a couple of friends over for a BBQ, a glass (or two or three…..) of wine with my lovely SIL.  I should probably try to get better at picking up the phone too…..

I'm a work in progress but, then again, aren't we all?


Thursday, April 10, 2014


When I look at my reflection I see a forty-four year old woman.   This woman has a few wrinkles creeping up around her eyes and a few grey hairs (thankfully only a few!).   After over four decades of happy, sad, stress and hard work, these things are to be expected.  Hers is not a life of leisure. 

When I look at my reflection I see a woman who wasn’t exactly thin before she had two babies and, given her sad lack of impulse control, will probably never be thin. She may work on this but, for the moment, basically accepts herself as she is.

When I look at my reflection I see a woman whose best and prettiest feature is her smile.  She shows that smile off as often as possible even when she isn't totally "feeling" it because it feels good when people smile back.

When I look at my reflection I see a mother, daughter, niece, cousin, aunt, ex-wife, sister-in-law, friend and coworker who treasures all of these things but, some days, still isn’t entirely sure what she wants to be when she grows up. 

When I look at my reflection, I see a woman who feels more confident and likes herself better now than her younger self did.  She's still a bit insecure sometimes but is working to get past that.

When I look at my reflection, I see a woman who, despite having family and friends to love, is lonely and sometimes aches for a partner.  Sadly, the dating scene has proven too damned depressing…..

When I look at my refection, I see a woman who needs to get out more and experience life before she turns into a crazy cat lady.  Now that spring truly seems to be on the way, perhaps she'll work on that.

That woman in the mirror is complicated and needs improvement in some areas but she's not so bad.  I think that I like her.


(post inspired by Mama Kat's Writing Prompts)