I had this very conversation with somebody recently. I hadn't seen her since we were kids. Her sister and I were in the same class together and were quite close when we were young. Sadly, the occasion of this little reunion wasn't a happy one; it was her father's funeral. Her mother was kind enough to come pay her respects when my mother died last year so I felt the need to repay that kindness when her husband passed away last month.
See? There I go being an adult. I hadn't seen this man in over thirty years although I do have very vivid memories of him from my childhood so my presence there certainly wouldn't have been expected.
D and I marvelled at how we are now the mothers of teenagers (turns out our daughters go to the same school, same grade and know each other!) but, on a lot of days we feel like kids ourselves. We agreed that this adulting gig is a tough one sometimes.
Another reason for feeling adult? My son turned 18 recently. I used to call him The Boy on this blog but that doesn't really fit anymore so let's make him Z now (first letter of his name). At the same time as he turned 18, he also moved out with a friend. Talk about a double whammy on his poor momma! I have reasons other than the fact that it makes me feel old to not like this move but I couldn't exactly stop him. I considered chaining him to my balcony and throwing him the occasional bread crust but I was advised that this may be a wee bit illegal. Damn......
|I'll disown him if he introduces me to his new friend!|
My daughter - let's call her E now instead of The Girl - is in her final year of high school (Grade 11 here) and it's all happening way too quickly for me. She is so excited to graduate and go on to bigger and better things when I just want her to stay young for a little while longer. She's talking about going into nursing and seems to know what she wants. Even if she's making me feel a bit old, I am so damned proud of who she is becoming.
|Look who got herself another ear piercing!|
What am I thankful for today? The fact that I am still here to see these amazing kids become amazing adults.