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I read a story on Scary Mommy about a new thing happening in
London. There is a group of “overweight haters”
handing people in the subway cards with fat shaming notes on them before
scurrying off. What the fuck?!! I don’t use much profanity on my blog to keep
it friendly for everyone but it’s totally justified in this case so, again…..
What the fuck?! Where
do I even start?
If you know someone well and are concerned for their health,
I can understand sitting down with them and engaging in a caring, respectful
dialogue, offering whatever support and assistance they may require in their
journey towards health. I’m not a fan of
talking about my health with anyone but I could appreciate such good
intentions. Fat shaming a stranger who
you know absolutely nothing about? Never
a good idea. Mind your own damned
business!
The way they are approaching their mission too is particularly
heinous. Instead of having the guts to
walk up to someone and look them in the eye as they insult them, they are
scurrying past these people and thrusting cards in their laps, not stopping to
see the shock, anger and upset that they leave in their wake. We’re not talking about ten year old
schoolyard bullies here; we’re talking about grown-ass adults!
This brings me to my next point. As adults, those of us who are overweight
know perfectly well that we are overweight.
We don’t need to be told. Really,
we don’t. Every person who is overweight
is that way for a reason. Perhaps it’s a
medical condition, perhaps it’s emotional problems, perhaps it’s bad genes,
perhaps it’s bad habits learned over time and perhaps it’s a combination of
these things. There are those who are
trying hard to change their situation and there are those who have given up
trying. Each and every one of us has a
story and no stranger in the subway can possibly guess at what that story is.
Whether we are trying to change or not, we have every right
to love ourselves at whatever stage we find ourselves at. Each and every one of us – fat, thin or in
between – has beauty inside and out.
Nobody…. I repeat…. NOBODY has the right to take that away from us. I wonder how those assholes in the London
subway would feel if someone treated them or their mothers, brothers or cousins
with such disrespect.
The other day, somebody on Facebook made a joke about
wanting to tell a woman he knows that her face looks like Adele’s but was worried
she might think he was accusing her of being fat. I blasted him for it (perhaps a tad harshly,
I admit) and he came back saying that he didn’t think of her as fat but there
are women who do think it. I replied to
him that I recognized that he was trying to be amusing but that repeating such
trash-talk only gave it a voice. It is
far better to drown it in silence. By
the next day, he had removed the post. I
don’t know if it’s because he thought this crazy troll bitch (me!) was going to
keep on him or if he thought about what I said and agreed. I kind of hope it’s the latter. It would mean that one more person has put
some thought into this subject.
Amy Schumer posted a (mostly) nude picture of herself this week using the words that so many of us say to ourselves on a regular basis - some negative, some positive - but every one of them powerful. It rather sums up the struggle that each and every one of us has.
I rarely get up on a soapbox for a rant on this blog since
that’s not usually the vibe that I’m going for but this subject is a worthy
one. While repeating trash gives it a
voice, the same can be said for repeating a positive message.
Repetition of a positive message of love and respect – both
of self and each other – can only give it power.
Kathy
Kathy
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