Last weekend I read Fat Girl Walking by Brittany Gibbons. I’ve been following Brittany through her blog, Twitter and Instagram for a while now and have admired her boldness, confidence and her beauty. I used to think “wow, she must have had quite some upbringing to have such confidence and self-esteem” because, really, that’s something that most women have trouble with regardless of their dress size.
Well, guess what; she has those issues too. Who’d of thunk it?! You’d never know it, looking at her bikini pics on Instagram, but she has all of the same self-esteem and insecurity issues that I do. She has had the same issues with clothing, taunting, shaming; been treated poorly by guys. Sadly, the things that she went through with teenaged boys are the same things that I’ve experienced with grown men. Do they ever grow up?
This lady is just like me, you and every other woman who has ever looked at her body and said “Ugh!” yet, she has found way to live with this and still shine. If she wasn’t such a bad lesbian (you gotta read the book), I’d be in love with her.
The difference between Brittany and me is that she has found a way to look past her own insecurities and see herself in a positive light. That’s what this book is about; her journey to seeing herself in a good way and giving herself permission to shine. I try but tend to fall short, more often than not. She is definitely an inspiration.
Anyone who has struggled with their weight throughout their life will find themselves nodding at so much of what she says and, hopefully, will walk away with a new perspective. We owe it to our daughters to obliterate the current harsh language that we use to describe ourselves and, perhaps, open the discussion wherever we go about what real beauty is.