I haven’t participated in Finish the Sentence Friday in a while mostly because the subjects just haven’t “spoken” to me but this week’s did. I’m glad too since I just found out that they are taking a break for July.
The one thing I’ll never compromise on is………
This sentence seems to have a different ending at different ages and, in the end, I find myself compromising on most of those things.
“I will always do something for a living that is exciting and makes me happy” – There came a time when responsibilities reared their heads and taking a good, stable job became the priority over excitement.
“I will never feed my kids junk food” (from pre-parent days, of course) – Any parent who says that they actually stick to this one and never gives their kid a sugary treat is either a liar or a bloody saint.
“I will always be the parent who bakes, does crafts, patiently sits with her kids as they do their homework while a delicious, healthy dinner is simmering on the stove; in other words the perfect mom” – Ha! Boy was there compromise there! After being gone eleven hours a day five days a week, this poor mom is pooped. I’ve got two great kids who seem to love me though so I at least get an “A” for effort.
“I will always be completely honest. I’ll never lie to anyone” – Now, most of the time that is true of me but I’d be lying now if I said that I’ve never told a little white lie. Is there anybody who has never said that a friend’s new outfit/haircut was nice, when they really didn’t so, just to not hurt their feelings? Have you ever said that you forgot to call someone back or “got busy” when, really, you just didn’t feel like talking and didn’t want them to take it personally? Even the most honest of us makes the occasional compromise with the best of intentions.
See, life is all about compromise. I can’t think of one thing that I can righteously say I would NEVER compromise on and you can’t either. As a matter of fact, the word “never” should be obliterated from the English language.
Never say “never”!
You might say, but Kathy I would never hurt or kill someone. Really? If somebody was physically threatening or hurting your family, you wouldn’t fight back and take that sucker out? Of course you would. Mama Bear would certainly come out in me if somebody was hurting my kids and I’m one of the most peace-loving people around. You’d never steal? If you or your family were starving, you wouldn’t steal food? Of course you would. We all would. The difference between the “good” people and the “bad” people is what has to happen for you to make those compromises.
Of course not all compromises are born of such dire circumstances. Some are as simple as ordering pizza when you know you should be grilling that chicken in your fridge and serving it with a nice salad but you’re just too tired to do anything other than dial the pizzeria phone number.
Not all compromise is bad. The ability to bend and see a different way of doing things can be a good thing. Those who are so rigid that they can’t fathom a change in how they think and do things are missing out on so much in life. They miss out on understanding a different point of view. They miss out on relationships that could enrich their lives. They miss opportunities. I try hard to not be that kind of person. Now that is something I won't compromise on!